Chris R. Parish


Understand and Grow Yourself!

This week I posted 5 little daily post on several topics. Each topic builds on each other. I’ve combined them here and added some more craziness to the mix. Grow Yourself! In order for me to grow, I have to understand who it is I am. Now you repeat that line. In order for you to grow you have to understand who it is you are!

Bruce Lee says to empty your mind, to be formless, shapeless like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash, be water my friend.

You can take that however you want it. I will tell you my interpretation. But first, picture this. Jesus told a story and goes like this:

Listen. A farmer went out to plant some seeds. As he scattered them across the field, some seeds fell on the footpath and the birds came and ate them. Other seeds fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. The seeds sprouted quickly because the soil was shallow. But the plants soon wilted under the hot sun, and since they didn’t have deep roots, they died. Other seeds fell among thorns and grew up and choked out the tender plants. Still other seeds fell on fertile soil, and they produced a crop that was thirty, sixty, and even a hundred times as much as had been planted! Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand.

Be water! You need to listen as well as understand. To better yourself become the water. Become the story telling. Get lost in the story! Grow beyond yourself and grow others. Thrive! Understand! Grow yourself!

Most of us wake up every day and just survive. We work enough to pay our bills and buy our wants. We call it getting by and that’s just all we ever do. Get By. Survive. We do what everybody else does. We are sheep!

If you want to get anywhere in life then surviving should only be a starting point. We have to turn surviving into thriving. You have to be hungry for more and eat up everything you can. Surviving is for the little fish and I don’t want to be a little fish in a big pond, I want to be a Shark on the line! Taste that blood and feed, feed, and feed! GROW Yourself!

I want to grow and develop my writing skills as fast and as much as possible. How do I do that? By pushing to thrive instead of just trying to survive. Fuck Surviving when I can Thrive! No, fuck survival of the fittest and hello to thrival of the smartest! Tweet that! Word thirsty and ready to move forward and get out of the shallow waters and into the deep!

I’ve been hiding, changing what I write about then going back again. It’s been fuckin’ chaos because I keep putting a sensor on myself to keep an image people have of me. Not anymore, I’m no longer a survivor, I’m a thriver! I no longer want to wake up to just getting enough, I want it all. The world chico and everything in it! Scarface! Love it!

Have you ever noticed how people come to America and they don’t just get by, survive? They want to thrive. Because in America we have what is called the American Dream. Where you can go from nothing to having it all and then sometimes back to nothing. You have to watch what you are doing and in doing so, you can build an empire. Define your empire! Understand what thriving is to you. Take over the world and everything in it! Listen to other people and understand how they survive or how they thrive!

We are born with two ears, one mouth. Which means we need to listen more than we speak in order to grow yourself!

That pretty much sums it up. Shut up and listen! When you are able to sit back and listen to someone else, just to let them be heard, they’ll love you for it. Let them say whatever it is they want to say, no judgments, no interrupting. Most people listen with the intent to reply. Don’t. Just listen and understand. It’ll make them feel better about themselves, and about you!

The bible says in Proverbs 18:2 that a fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions. I am no fool, are you? James 1:19 let every person be quick to listen and slow to speak. Proverbs 17:28 even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise, when he closes his mouth he is deemed intelligent. Are you an intelligent fool? Who cares! Shut up and listen. Sometimes that’s all that is needed. To be heard. Why the hell do you think I’m writing this? I need to hear it! Yeah, me! Because I write not just for you but for myself. So that I understand. To keep teaching myself what I already know, over and over. It’s in my motto.

My motto:

To live life with simplicity,

To empower my friends, family and myself with knowledge known and unknown,

To motivate a mind, to motivate a mind.

That motto was inspired by Tupac. He once said that he may not be the one to change the world but he’ll spark the mind that would. I’m not saying I am the mind. All I’m doing here is trying to carry on the spark!

What do you want? Don’t say it’s not that simple! We all want something. Something we talk about all the time. It’s always on our mind, sitting there teasing us every day. What is it that you really want? Understand what you want! Stop right where you are. Don’t read any more until you’ve really thought about what it is you want and have understood its gravity.

Okay, so you know what it is? Now, why do you want it? I’d bet the reason you want it-whatever “it” is-is for the wrong reasons. Some may want it for the right reasons. Are you one of them? Think about that for a moment. Why do you want what you want? Money, freedom or just to get away from what you are doing now.

Grow yourself into more freedom!

Sometimes you have to do what you hate in order to find what you love. Working a job you hate just to find the job you love. It’s always what you rather be doing than what you are doing now! When you’ve been in a position, especially work related, that you hate and the whole time you’re thinking about paintball or singing or acting or just being home or for my own sake, writing. That’s what you should be doing anyway. Find a job in the paintball field, sing at local clubs, act for young film producers filming an independent film. Whatever it is you’re dreaming about all day, do that, any way you can.

Put yourself out there. Make things happen. The only way someone will notice you is for you to notice yourself first. I want to be a writer. The reason I want to write is because I love to write and I believe I can help people with my craziness. Yeah! One day I’ll be financially free because of it, or at least I hope so. But I am writing now. What are you doing?

Prove it to yourself. Prove that what you want is what you want. Get up, do what you want! Don’t let yesterday keep you from doing what you want!

Did something happen yesterday that you don’t agree with? Yesterday left you moping around, huh? Fuck yesterday! Yesterday is gone. Today is an opportunity to change what you didn’t like about yesterday. Leave it where it is. Be the person you were meant to be today. Don’t dwell in the past!

You hear the saying, never forget where you came from? It means where you came from made you who you are today. Understand where you came from made you who you are. So live today as if it was your last day on earth. Because you never know, it just may be. No regrets just do! Live!

I woke up this morning thinking about yesterday. Nothing crazy happened yesterday but I was thinking about it. I was understanding it. Thinking about what I did. I read some of the two books that I’ve been reading in this past week. I wrote my little post on my website. I did some networking on facebook and twitter. I hung out with my daughter for a bit, she’s 6! Imagine what we played! I went for a run! All that AFTER my day job! But nevermind yesterday, just understand it.

What can we do today that blows yesterday out of the water? Let me tell you what I’m doing today to destroy yesterday. Eye doctor, not that fun right? Pizza, yeah! Arcade games, yeah! Amusement rides, Yeah! All in one place, and with the family, even better. Yes, that tops yesterday and probably all weekend. Hmmm..Fuck yesterday!

What are you doing now that yesterday is gone? Don’t wait until tomorrow to do something great. Remember tomorrow is always coming but never gets here. Yesterday is history and now is present. A present in which you can open every moment of your life!

Understand and be who you are, not who people think you are.

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